Saturday, 22 October 2016

Victims Of Men - Okpala Uzochukwu

Ada, I have known you for six years now” Emeka said
“You want to start asking me out again abi,” Ada jokingly added, pushed his head to the chair and continued “that is the phrase you always use when you want to talk about this dating stuff”
Emeka continued, ignoring what she said, “ You don’t want to date me, you don’t want to have sex with me, you just keep calling me bestie”
The smile Emeka had on his face earlier was disappearing slowly making way for a gloomy mood like a cloid that comes suddenly on a sunny day.
“Emeka, Emeka, oya smile for me na” Ada teased trying to tickle him.
Emeka pushed her away and she landed on the bed, her skirt raised exposing the upper part of her thigh.
Ada was shocked, they had been enjoying themselves, gisting and laughing since she came to Emeka’s house an hour  before, she did not understand the sudden change of mood. He made a quick motion to the door, locked it  and threw the key inside his pocket and in one quick motion moved towards Ada.
“What are you trying to do Emeka, what has suddenly come over you” Ada couldn’t understand how someone was laughing in the previous minute suddenly turned sour and bitter.
Emeka, knelt on the bed over her and whispered into her ears “since you don’t want to give me what I want, I am going to take it by force”
what do you mean Emeka”
Emeka tried raisng her skirt, she slapped him and pushed his hand away.
But Emeka was stronger…

Rape is an unlawful sexual activity and usually sexual intercourse carried out forcibly or under threat of injury against the will usually of a female or with a person who is beneath a certain age or incapable of valid consent.

The effects of rape can be physical- bruises, injuries, it can be medical- vagnismus, risk of contracting infections such as HIV, it can be psychological which might be the most damaging effect.
The psychological effects of rape can be damaging, some women who have been raped continue to have an intense hatred for men their whole life, some seem not toforget theincident their whole life and some go on to never have a proper relationship with a any man.

Majority of rape cases are swept under the carpet, most girls never get to talk to anyone about their rape incident and studies have shown that less than twenty percent of rape cases are reported. this is because of the societal believe and mindset towards rape. the first question in a community like ours usually is: what did the girl go there to do?

Reporting a rape case is important, first for medical attention. Some people get infected with HIV without knowing it after they were raped and never get to know about it until months later (which is rather late). This would have been prevented if it was reported within forty eigth hours. Psychological support that can be given to anyone involved, and most importantly, the rapist face the law.

The society’s mindset towards rape can be appauling, rape is a very serious issue that has demeaning consequences to the victim, and questions and criticism of the raped involving questions like: what was she doingin his house alone, why was she wearing a short skirt? Should be retracted.
Let us strive towards a better future for the female child, standing against rape is the duty of everyone.


(Okpala Uzochukwu is a student of the College of Health Sciences, Obafemi Awolowo University and a member of the OAU Peeps Team)

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